A Lebanese treat: civil marriage in Cyprus

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In Lebanon, civil marriage is not recognised — unless it was registered abroad. Sensing a business opportunity, a travel agent has started offering wedding packages in Cyprus, complete with best man and bridesmaid.

Under Lebanese law, each of the country’s 18 religious communities (Sunni, Shi'ite, Maronite, Catholic, Orthodox, Druze, etc) is entitled to oversee its members’ marital status in accordance with its own rules. As a result, religious bodies are sovereign in matters of marriage, divorce and,in the case of Muslims, inheritance. In 1951, lawmakers came up with a proposal to allow civil marriage, a move later attempted by former President Elias Hraoui in 1998. In both cases, the idea was dropped after it sparked an outcry across the country.

While only religious marriage is authorised on Lebanese territory, the authorities will recognise civil matrimonies registered abroad. Hence, Lebanese couples may seek a civil divorce, but not a civil wedding. 

Most people who wish to get married, but not in a religious ceremony, head for the nearby island state of Cyprus, a 30-minute flight from Beirut. Jumping on the opportunity, the Nadia Travel agency has decided to market a full “civil marriage in Cyprus” package. In addition to the standard services, the package covers the costs of the ceremony, the translation and paperwork, the bride’s bouquet and even supplies the best man and bridesmaid. The head of Nadia Travel says the offer is a huge success, with three to five couples tying the knot in Cyprus every week.

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“Women who choose civil marriage are thought to be of dubious morality”

Monique Zoghbi works in human resources in Beirut. She and her husband Elie got married in Cyprus last week, courtesy of Nadia Travel.

We got married in Nicosia before a marriage officer, his assistant and the driver, who also served as our photographer. The ceremony lasted seven minutes, to the tune of Mendelssohn’s wedding march, which was played on a small tape recorder brought in by the marriage officer’s assistant. We weren’t the only people in the town hall. Other Lebanese couples were waiting, as well as some from Israel [where civil marriage is also banned].

I opted for a civil wedding because I didn’t want a religious authority to control my life. For me marriage is little more than a formality. The crucial thing is our commitment to one another. And if we happened to seek a divorce one day, I would want the decision to be my own, without any religious authority interfering, as is so often the case among Lebanon’s Catholics and Maronites.

Of course our marriage prompted strong reactions among some of our relatives. Unfortunately, Lebanon is not yet ready to accept civil marriage. Many still only see it as a so-called marriage, some form of cohabitation. Women who choose civil marriage are thought to be of dubious morality. The priest in my husband’s parish had even admonished us about the dangers of such a wedding. This condemnation is hardly a surprise, given that religious authorities would lose money if they let go of their monopoly rights over people’s marital status.”

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